Self Care Guide for Extremely Busy People
Are you tired of the same routine that makes you feel like a robot? Are you overwhelmed of the lots of task you need to finish every day? Are you exhausted by being there for everyone except you? If this sounds familiar this article is for you.
The first change I needed to do is to change the perspective of myself and what I am worthy of. I wanted to be able to have a life where I will enjoy every moment with myself without feeling any negative emotion.
The next step I took is creating a self care routine. Finally, the last change I needed to make was to shift my mindset in order for me to honour the routine I’ve created for me.
It sounds very easy, only 3 simple steps, right?
I’ll be honest with you, it wasn’t so simple. It took me a lot of practice to be able to honour myself and my plan but it’s worth the effort. Believe me!
All right, enough talking, you came here for something. Here is a simple and practical self care guide for extremely busy people like you. This guide can be followed by everyone, either you just started your self care journey and do not have so much insights, either you that are practicing self care for a long time and need some fresh tips.
1. Identify Your Needs
Often time, self care is interpreted as pampering yourself, however, self care is really about meeting your needs. Either you seek relaxation, connection, stability, being with your thoughts or so much more. Before you engage in any kind of self care related activity, ask yourself a powerful question: What needs do I want to be met? What do I need most right now?
Not only this will help you truly care for yourself on a very fundamental level, but it will make your self care more efficient. Instead of engaging in random self care activities in an attempt to feel ‘better’, you can pinpoint exactly what it is you need right now and go straight to meeting that need.
2. Make Appointments With Yourself
“I don’t have enough time” is one of the most common excuses when it comes to practicing self care on a regular basis. If you have such problem, how do you solve it? Exactly, by creating space on your calendar. Perhaps this sounds easier said than done, but one certain way to create time for your self care is to schedule it. Find a gap in your calendar each week and schedule in an appointment called “Me Time”. Then, most importantly, honour your calendar. Don’t be late, don’t reschedule it even though it will be tempting to do so.
Be realistic with your scheduling: if all you can see is the odd 10-minute gap, use that. Depending on what your current needs are, your self care could simply involve closing your eyes and meditate for a few minutes.
3. Prioritise Yourself
While we’re on the subject of time, let’s talk about priorities. When we feel like we don’t have time to do important tasks, it’s either because we’re not making time, or because our priorities are out of alignment with what we actually need. Everything we do with our time is a choice. It might feel like we “have” to do certain things, but, in reality, we have complete control over how we spend our time.
If you decide that you’re a priority for yourself then you can fit self care into your schedule, no matter how busy you are. Whether this means making it the first thing you do each morning before everyone wakes up as a boost of energy for yourself, at your lunch break to relax and refresh your mind or in the evening after a long and productive day as a reward.
4. Set Your Boundaries
When you start taking time for yourself this will sometimes mean you’re saying ‘no’ to commitments and requests. You might experience resistance from people around you. Which can be emotionally challenging, especially if you’re not used to saying ‘no’ or placing your preferences above others. If you’re faced with this kind of resistance, you need to set boundaries very carefully.
Remember: you can take daily half an hour for yourself, and the world will still be there when you return. And when you do return, you’ll be in a much better, healthier position to deal with the world around you.
The most important thing to keep in mind is that self care is not a luxury. It’s not selfish and it’s not indulgent. Self care is absolutely necessary to your physical and mental health.
5. Be Consistent
Like meditation, exercise and learning, self care is far more effective when you practice it on a daily basis. Practising self care 10-15 minutes a day is far more helpful than two hours once a month.
Self care doesn’t have to involve a lot of time. If you’re struggling to fit self care into your routine, start small, prioritise, and listen to what you need.
Need Some Quick Self Care Activity Ideas?
Those activities are designed to be done in minutes and give you so much energy and clarity. Here are some of my favourites ones:
Meditation - 10 minutes / day
For meditation I use an app called Calm which is amazing, it helps me clear my thoughts and gives me new perspective of life every day.
Quiet Morning - 15 minutes / day
I love waking up with 15 minutes earlier then everybody and take some time for myself. I usually prepare a tasty coffee and enjoy it while reading some kindness prompt cards which help me find compassion and empathy. Sometimes I treat myself with my favourite chocolate. Right before everybody wakes up I’m done with my routine, I feel empowered and fresh for the day. If you would like to try this routine which is ready for you, all you need to do is to click here and will arrive at your place as soon as possible.
Affirmations - 5 minutes / day
I’ve found some very useful affirmation prints on Etsy, I placed then on my vision board and I read them every morning before I start my day. This gives me so much energy and reminds myself all the things that I am capable of. My favourite one is: “I can handle it!”
Journaling 15 minutes / day
I love writing my thoughts every night before bed. It feels amazing. But you know what feels better? A lovely self care routine before sleep. Lighting up a lavender candle which helps me sleep, writing my thoughts on my minimalist journal and after I feel free of thoughts I put on my sleep mask and enjoy my dreams. If this sounds good to you, you can find this gift box routine right on our website by clicking here.
I’ve been embarked on my self love journey for a while now and I learned what it truly means to love oneself. This is what inspired me to create Lil’ Something gift boxes. To empower and inspire others by helping them focus on their wellness and self love without spending too much time thinking of what should they do as a self care practice each day.
Our gift boxes are more than just sustainable and beautiful, they offer a transformational experience. A way to guide you on how to practice a more self compassionate, fulfilling and intentional life - the life you were born to live.
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See you soo,
The Founder of Lil’ Something.